Posts tagged ‘slow living’

May 20, 2013

Slow Blogging

Hello there,

It has been over a month since my last post. Just realised that sounds a bit like I’m at a Bloggers Anonymous meeting, but nonetheless, it’s true.

Big changes in my personal life, the usual work/life pressures and a desire to spend more time on the Sage & Thrift project are the main reasons  but to be honest, I’m also struggling to write. This blog has been my hobby for two years now. In that time, it’s brought me so much joy. But for the past month, phrases like ‘I must blog, I haven’t written anything for ages, I need to catch up’ have been on an endless loop in my head.

And yet, when I look out of my window, there is a noticeable absence of people waiting to break down the door and demand that I write a blog post. All the pressure is self-imposed. Since being nominated in the Blog North Awards – the best feeling ever – I’ve wanted to build on that success. To create an upwards trajectory, write more, gain more readers. It seems that the gods didn’t agree with that plan!

Previously, my three times a week schedule worked for me, but it’s no longer practical. I’ve been re-reading ’In Praise of Slow’ by Carl Honore, which is one of my favourite books, and now I’m wondering if there could be such a thing as ‘Slow Blogging’? Not sure if it’s a complete contradiction in terms, but I think that fewer, more considered posts would count as ‘Slow’ – do you?

I’ve been striving to live Slowly (capital S intended here) in the rest of my life; seasonally, locally, taking time to consider the things that are important in my life, stepping away from technology sometimes and spending time on face to face interactions, not entering into lots of consumerism, and so on. It’s not always successful, but being considered in my approach to these things has brought me lots of happiness and it’s a cornerstone of Sage & Thrift too. Now I think I want to try to do the same with my blog. To slow down, take a breath and reconsider what it is about it that has always brought me such happiness in the past.

I like the idea of just writing once a week, and taking my time over each post, rather than trying to churn out a lot of content, purely to meet a self created schedule. It would enable me to work on Sage & Thrift (which I have big plans for) and make sure that when I do post something, it’s genuinely because I want to, not because I feel that I should, must, have to. I want to regain the feeling of joy that this blog has always given me and step away from feeling panic-stricken because life has got in the way of my three-times-a-week blogging schedule.

So, that’s the plan. I’ll be writing once a week, about the usual jumble of things that I’ve always written about, but I’ll do my best to make sure that each post will be worth your time reading. And, yes, I realise that even once a week is a self-imposed schedule. Old habits die hard. However, this will give me a way of fitting the blog into my life in a way that makes it pleasurable, and not a stick to beat myself with. You never know, it might be only temporary. I might suddenly find a fit of energy and write every day!

I joked about ‘Bloggers Anonymous’ but this has felt a bit like a therapy session for me. Thanks for reading. Normal, albeit ‘Slower’ blogging will resume shortly …

August 29, 2012

Sunflower

Earlier this year, I was sent some sunflower seeds by the lovely Helen at The Good Life Mum. I planted them with my daughter and she has done her very best to look after them. Many of them grew to about a foot tall and then stopped. We have these in a row outside the back of our house. But, thankfully, one of them grew and grew. I’m so thrilled that she has managed to grow such a giant sunflower as reward for all her efforts – it’s a good lesson for her to learn.

Each of my children has a small raised bed on the allotment, and alongside her ‘wild flower’ seed mix (which has been hugely successful and much loved by the bees) she planted one of her sunflower plants.

I don’t really have any idea how big it is, as the only scale I have is Eve, who is a tall five year old! Once it’s finished flowering, we’ll allow it to go to seed and then dry the seeds to collect for using again next year.

March 30, 2012

Today: the only day of your life.

Living in the moment is a continual struggle for me, as I have so many ideas, projects and plans. I’m trying to be more mindful and to pay attention to the time that I am actually living. To appreciate each day as it comes instead of letting so many of them slip past unnoticed that it will soon be my birthday again and then another whole year will have vanished. Slowing down and appreciating the joy in each day, however simple and ordinary, is a really good way of slowing down the pace of life, which can be painfully hectic sometimes. I know, I’ve spoken about this before on here, but it is something that I’m really trying hard to work on this year.

My new motto is something I read somewhere recently. It’s probably horrifically well known, but I have no idea who to attribute it to, so I’m afraid I’m not going to.

‘Today is the only day of your life. Act accordingly.’

For me, this means many things. It means letting go of things that have happened to me instead of re-living them in my head time after time, as though I might change my actions or the consequences of them. It means trying really hard not to spend all my time impatiently waiting for things in my future to arrive, whether that is the day I go on holiday, the day my lovely son is finally out of nappies or that blessed day when I finally pay off my giant bank loan. It means really taking on this day and making the most of it.

That means spending time doing the things I love instead of wasting time on things I really don’t care about. If a book is not keeping my interest, I will leave it to one side now instead of doggedly trying to finish it. Life is too precious and there are too many other books to be read. The same goes for films or television shows. I will happily spend time on the things that are considered a ‘waste’ of time, if I am enjoying them, but I am trying to turn off my mobile, switch off the laptop and spend time on those things that I have always wanted to do. This results in more time actually being spent on making projects happen instead of messing about on clothing websites (for example!)  so it’s a winning and productive way to try and spend at least some of my time.

Alongside trying to really live in the only day I truly own, is trying to act accordingly. Telling the people I love, that I love them. Keeping things that go wrong in perspective. Counting my blessings. I’ve started to have pauses in my day, to think about what I am doing, how I am feeling, and ask myself if I am really ‘acting accordingly’ – and if I’m not, then I will consciously try to do so. I know it all sounds a bit odd, but it is really and truly making me feel better about each and every day of my life. It makes me take a deep breath instead of getting cross, it makes me slow down and really look about me to appreciate the small, joyful things that every day life brings and it makes me a better, kinder and more open person to those around me.

Before I read my book each evening, I have a little think about the day. I am trying to practice gratitude a bit more, so I will think of a few things that I am particularly grateful for. Above all, I want to get into my bed at the end of each day, and be happy to know that if this was to be my last day on Earth, I have used it well, shared it positively and made the most of it.

I’m aware that this post is in danger of sounding like a poorly written self help book, so, as one final act of self-sabotage, I am going to quote the irrepressible Ferris Bueller:

‘Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.’

PS: If you’re looking for a fun way to waste five minutes then have a look at Ferris Bueller Quotes, which is a random Ferris quote generator. Ace.

February 1, 2012

Three Square Foot of Garden.

On Sunday we ventured to the allotment for a short while and spent the time creating a small raised bed for each of the kids to have as their own space. They’re roughly three foot square each, based on the amazing kitchen garden at RHS Harlow Carr which is one of my favourite places to draw inspiration from. I wanted the kids to both have a decent piece of the plot so that they can grow something of their own. It has to be said that one of the plots will probably just end up being used to drive toy tractors on, but Eve has already decided that she wants flowers, strawberries and carrots on hers!

Remembering my rules for allotment gardening with the kids meant that everyone had a lovely time, although Ben did get cold quite quickly so we came home after about an hour. I could have stayed out a lot longer, so I had to remind myself that allotment gardening is a marathon, not a sprint!

December 21, 2011

Spiced biscuits for Christmas.

Although I haven’t made any home-made gifts this year, I do try to make time for baking at Christmas. Spiced biscuits are exactly the kind of thing I enjoy making with the kids. Although it has to be said, it’s fairly unlikely that I will be sharing these with anyone, given the probable addition of a good dose of my children’s snot! (What a lovely thought…) As long as I realise that creating something edible is less important than having fun, then its a great way to spend time with them over the holidays. Having said that, these biscuits are yummy.

Ingredients:

350g plain flour

1 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda

4 teaspoons of mixed spice (or you can add ginger and cinnamon instead, 2-3 teaspoons of each)

175g muscovado sugar (using light gives you a lighter biscuit, dark will make it more treacly in taste)

100g of unsalted butter, cut into pieces

4 tablespoons of runny honey

1 beaten egg

Method:

Sift the flour into a large bowl, add the bicarbonate of soda and spices. Be warned, this is when it starts to get messy, two year olds do not understand ‘sifting’!

Rub in the butter using your fingers as you would with pastry. Lovely and sticky…

Stir in the sugar. The add the egg and golden syrup before mixing to form the dough.

Lightly flour a work-surface,  then turn the dough out, kneading it some more to make sure that the mixture is all brought together properly, before rolling with a rolling pin until flat (roughly half a centimetre thick) and cutting into shapes. Thicker biscuits will stay slightly soft inside, like gingerbread, which is just as nice. Thinner ones will go crispy.

Cook in 190 degree oven for about 10 minutes – but do check them, as they can burn around the outsides quite quickly.

If you like, you can decorate these biscuits with white icing, although they never last long enough in my house for that!

 

November 30, 2011

Books.

I didn’t really know how to title this post. It’s not that I’m anti-Kindle or (insert other e-book device here) it’s just that I’m pro-books. Actual books. The smell (from sharp new academic texts, to fusty old, mouldy ones) the feel of the paper, the design of the cover, the choice of typeface; cannot be beaten.

Growing up, my love for the library was so great that when everyone else wanted to play dress up as doctors or super heroes, I pretended to be a librarian. I used to stamp my books before loaning them out and kept a fiercely updated list of who had taken which book.

My favourite books were pony books, and as a grown-up, I collect first editions of the ‘Jill’ series by Ruby Ferguson; my ultimate rose-tinted memory of that period.

Pony Books

In contrast to this, I recently enjoyed a completely new experience. My first Twitter book-club discussion, run by the lovely people at @More_Than_A. It was lovely to chat through a recent shared read (One Day, by David Mitchell) and hear other people’s views on such a popular book. A great discussion was had and it felt like a lovely way to share the love of reading and meet some new people online. I am already looking forward to the next one!

Although I still pay a couple of visits each week to the library, I have indulged in my love of books through the mighty Amazon. Like so many of us, I find the combination of choice and discounts irresistible – which, unfortunately has resulted in something of an overwhelming stack of books waiting to be read.

Ploughing through that stack of books has taught me that I need to slow down in my purchasing. To savour the buying of a book like I used to, instead of buying them in great swathes because they are cheap. It also struck me that if everyone shops like me, buying their books online, then the bookshop where I live would bear the brunt. So, this week I went to the bookshop instead. I spent a good long hour having a browse around, before choosing something purely because it felt right. (The Yiddish Policemen’s Union, by Pulitzer Prize winning author Michael Chabon, in case you’re interested.) Returning to the bookshop gave me a sense of pure, unadulterated joy. I will be back, and be spending more of my time and money in a proper bookshop, rather than just online. After all, a city without a bookshop is not a city I want to live in…

November 16, 2011

A Family Walk via Hipstagram

Photography is a hobby that I’d love to spend more time (and money!) on. At the moment, neither time or money are in abundance but I am having fun using various photography applications on my phone, and I thought I’d record our family walk from this weekend using my phone.

As part of our attempt to slow life down a bit – to cope with stress levels, and enjoy spending some great quality time together, we’ve started trying to book out the whole of Sunday to spend together, enjoying a variety of activities; arts and crafts, cooking, walking, gardening and spending some time outdoors.

So, here is my record of this weekend’s walk:

October 17, 2011

Slow Living.

On Sunday morning, I sat on the sofa and watched my children play together.

Not a big deal, you might think, but actually for me it was. Usually, they play (or fight) while I am moving about the house, trying to do too many things at once. Tidying, cleaning, cooking, washing, project planning… Even if I am sitting down, I’m writing notes to myself, reading a book or looking things up on the internet, rather than giving them my full attention, which is just the way I try to cope with being a parent and full time employee, as well as keeping on top of my many interests.

One of the things I have been planning recently is my daughter’s birthday party, which has been a bit fraught as she has just started school and so has signed the ‘Schoolchild Secrets Act’. If you’re a parent, you’ll know what I mean when I say that getting any information out of her about what she has done with her day is almost impossible. So, learning about her new friends and therefore who she actually wants to come to this party has been something of a challenge!

Then there’s my son, who is two and a half and has just started pre-school, which means I’m having to cope when he has to be pulled, kicking and screaming, from my arms to go into his pre-school for the morning. It only seems like yesterday that I was in that place with my daughter and she will soon be five.

It is something of a cliché to say that time flies, but clichés are just a well worn way of telling the truth. My babies are growing up, and if I don’t spend more time just sitting on the sofa watching them play (and joining in!) I will miss that happening, and on the rare occasion they are playing nicely together instead of bashing each other, it is important for me to notice! After all, to paraphrase Ferris Bueller (a cultural icon of my youth!) life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and take a look around once in a while, you might miss it.

I’ve been struggling a bit recently. Life does sometimes get the better of me, and I have periods of stress and anxiety. A perfect time then,  to slow down, stop trying to do everything all at once, and live a bit more in the moment. I’ve been re-reading several old favourite books on this subject: ’In Praise of Slow’, by Carl Honoré and ‘How to Be Idle’ and ‘How to Be Free’ by Tom Hodgkinson.

There are also lots of comforting Autumnal activities which, even if I could do quickly, I’d rather not:

  • Stirring risotto
  • Making pies
  • Crafting decorations for Halloween and Christmas
  • Walking through the local woods
  • Planting garlic, over-wintering onions and Spring flowering bulbs
  • Sowing sweet pea seeds
  • Planning my Spring allotment crop rotation
  • Re-reading an old favourite novel
  • Watching a film with my children.
  • Teaching my daughter how to bake.
So, I am going to slow down, embrace the day I am living in, spend more time playing with my kids and hopefully find a bit of calm and peace in my busy world.

A moment of calm in a busy day...

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